It's All About LOVE

When you think of your past love, you may view it

as a failure. But when you find a new love,

you view the past as a teacher.



In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who

won or who lost. What is important is you know

when to hold on and when to let go!



You know you really love someone when you

want him or her to be happy, even if their

happiness means that you're not part of it.

Everything happens for the best.



If the person you love doesn't love you back,

don't be afraid to love someone else again, for

you'll never know unless you give it a try.

You'll never love a person you love

unless you risk for love.



Love strives in hurting.

If you don't get hurt,

you don't learn how to love.

Love doesn't hurt all the time.

Though the hurting is still there to test you,

to help you grow.



Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's

called falling in love because you don't force

yourself to fall. You just fall.



You cannot finish a book without closing it's

chapters. If you want to go on, then you have

to leave the past as you turn the pages.



Love is not destroyed by a single failure or

won by a single caress. It is a lifetime venture in

which we are always learning, discovering, and

growing.



The greatest irony of love is letting go when

you need to hold on and holding on when you

need to let go.

We lose someone we love only when we

are destined to find someone else who can

love us even more that we can love ourselves.



On falling out of love, take some time to heal

and then get back on the horse. But don't ever

make the same mistake of riding the same one

that threw you the first time.



To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk

dying, to hope is to risk failure.

But risk must be taken

because the greatest hazard in life is risk

nothin! To reach for another is to risk

involvement,to expose your feelings is to expose true self,

to love is to risk not to be loved in return.



How to define love:

Fall but do not stumble, be constant but not

too persistent, share and never be unfair,

understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep

the pain. Love is like a knife. It can stab the heart

or it can carve wonderful images into the soul

that always last for a lifetime. Love is supposed

to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire

you and give you joy and strength.



But sometimes the things that give you joy

can also hurt you in the end. Loving people

means giving them the freedom who they choose to

be and where they choose to be. For all the

heartaches and the tears, for gloomy days

and fruitless years, you should give thanks, for

you know, that there were the things that helped

you grow. Loving someone means giving him the

freedom to find his way, whether it leads

towards you or away from you.



Love is a painful risk to take but the risk must

be taken no matter how scary or painful, for only

then you'll experience the fullness of humanity and

that is love. Only love can hurt your heart, fill you

with desire and tear you apart. Only love can

make you cry and only love knows why. If you're not

ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk, if you're

not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to

fall in love.



There was a time in our lives when we

became afraid to fall in love coz everytime we do, we

get hurt, then I figured that's why it's called falling

in love.



WHEN YOU DECIDE TO LOVE,

ALLOW IT TO GROW...



WHEN YOU PROMISE TO LOVE,

REFUSE TO LET IT DIE!!!

5 Reasons Why God Uses Problems

The problems you face will either defeat you or develop you - depending on how you respond to them. Unfortunately, most people fail to see how God wants to use problems for good in their lives. They react foolishly and resent their problems rather than pausing to consider what benefit they might bring. Here are five ways God wants to use the problems in your life:

1. God uses problems to DIRECT you.

Sometimes God must light a fire under you to get
you moving. Problems often point us in a new direction and
motivate us to change. Is God trying to get your attention? "Sometimes it
takes a painful situation to make us change our ways."
Proverbs 20:30

2. God uses problems to INSPECT you.

People are like tea bags...if you want to know what's inside
them, just drop them into hot ever water! Has God tested
your faith with a problem What do problems reveal about
you? "When you have many kinds of troubles, you
should be full of joy, because you know that these troubles test
your faith, and this will give you patience."
James 1:2-3

3. God uses problems to CORRECT you.

Some lessons we learn only through pain and failure. It's
likely that as a child your parents told you not to touch a
hot stove. But you probably learned by being burned.
Sometimes we only learn the value of something...health,
money, a relationship... by losing it. "It was the best thing
that could have happened to me, for it taught me to pay attention to your laws."

Psalm 119:71-72

4. God uses problems to PROTECT you.

A problem can be a blessing in disguise if it prevents you from
being harmed by something more serious. Last year a friend
was fired for refusing to do something unethical that his boss
had asked him to do. His unemployment was a problem - but
it saved him from being convicted and sent to prison a year
later when management's actions were eventually discovered.
"You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good...
Genesis 50:20

5. God uses problems to PERFECT you.

Problems, when responded to correctly, are character builders.
God is far more interested in your character than your comfort.
Your relationship to God and your character are the only two
things you're going to take with you into eternity. "We can rejoice when we run into problems... they help us learn to be patient. And patience develops strength of
character in us and helps us trust God more each time we use it until finally our
hope and faith are strong and steady."

Romans 5:3-4

Here's the point:
God is at work in your life - even when you do not recognize it or understand it.
But it's much easier and profitable when you cooperate with Him.

"Success can be measured not only in achievements, but in lessons learned, lives touched and moments shared along the way"

LIFE IS AN ECHO. What you send out, you get back.
What you give, you receive.
WHEN YOU BRING OUT THE BEST IN OTHERS, YOU BRING OUT THE BEST IN YOURSELF.

JUST A LITTLE MAIL FROM GOD

As you got up this morning

I watched you and hope you would talk to me

Even if it was just a few words

Asking my opinion or thanking me for something good that happened in your life yesterday

But I noticed you were too busy

Trying to find the right outfit to put on and wear to work

I waited.

When you ran around the house getting ready

I knew there would be a few minutes to stop and say hello

But you were too busy

At one point you had to wait fifteen minutes with nothing to do except sit in a chair

Then I saw you sprang to your feet

I thought you wanted to talk to me but you ran to the phone

And called a friend to get the latest gossip

I watched as you went to work and I waited patiently all day long

With all your activities I guess you were too busy to say anything to me

I noticed that before lunch you looked around

Maybe you felt embarrassed to talk to me

That is why you didn’t bow your head

You glanced three for four tables over

And you noticed some of your friends talking to me briefly before they ate

But you didn’t, That’s Okay.

There is still more time left, and I hope that you talk to me yet

You went home and it seems as if you had lots of things to do

After a few of them were done you turned on the TV

I didn’t know if you like TV or not

Just about anything goes there and spend a lot of time each day in front of it

Not thinking about anything – just enjoying the show

I waited patiently again as you watched the TV

And ate your meal but again you didn’t talk to me

Bedtime I guess you felt too tired.

After you said goodnight to your family, you plopped on to bed and feel asleep in no time

That’s okay because you may not realize that I am always there for you

I’ve got patience more than you will ever know

I even want to teach you how to be patient with others as well

I love you so much that I wait everyday for a nod,

Prayer, or thought, or thankful part of your heart

It is hard to have one-sided conversation

Well, you are getting up again and once again I will wait with nothing but love

For you hoping that today you will give me sometime.

Have a nice day!

Your friend,

JESUS

EATING FRUITS

EATING FRUITS .......

It's long but very informative

We all think eating fruits means just buying fruits, cutting it and just popping it into our mouths. It's not as easy as you think. It's important to know how and when to eat.



What is the correct way of eating fruits?

IT MEANS NOT EATING FRUITS AFTER YOUR MEALS! FRUITS SHOULD BE EATEN ON AN EMPTY STOMACH.



If you eat fruit like that, it will play a major role to detoxify your system, supplying you with a great deal of energy for weight loss and other life activities.



FRUIT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT FOOD. Let's say you eat two slices of bread and then a slice of fruit. The slice of fruit is ready to go straight through the stomach into the intestines, but it is prevented from doing so.



In the meantime the whole meal rots and ferments and turns to acid. The minute the fruit comes into contact with the food in the stomach and digestive juices, the entire mass of food begins to spoil.



So please eat your fruits on an empty stomach or before your meals! You have heard people complaining - every time I eat watermelon I burp, when I eat durian my stomach bloats up, when I eat a banana I feel like running to the toilet etc - actually all this will not arise if you eat the fruit on an empty stomach. The fruit mixes with the putrefying other food and produces gas and hence you will bloat!



Graying hair, balding, nervous outburst, and dark circles under the eyes all these will not happen if you take fruits on an empty stomach.



There is no such thing as some fruits, like orange and lemon are acidic, because all fruits become alkaline in our body, according to Dr. Herbert Shelton who did research on this matter. If you have mastered the correct way of eating fruits, you have the Secret of beauty, longevity, health, energy, happiness and normal weight.



When you need to drink fruit juice - drink only fresh fruit juice, NOT from the cans. Don't even drink juice that has been heated up. Don't eat cooked fruits because you don't get the nutrients at all. You only get to taste. Cooking destroys all the vitamins.



But eating a whole fruit is better than drinking the juice. If you should drink the juice, drink it mouthful by mouthful slowly, because you must let it mix with your saliva before swallowing it. You can go on a 3-day fruit fast to cleanse your body. Just eat fruits and drink fruit juice throughout the 3 days and you will be surprised when your friends tell you how radiant you look!



KIWI: Tiny but mighty. This is a good source of potassium, magnesium, vitamin E & fiber. Its vitamin C content is twice that of an orange.



APPLE: An apple a day keeps the doctor away? Although an apple has a low vitamin C content, it has antioxidants & flavonoids which enhances the activity of vitamin C thereby helping to lower the risks of colon cancer, heart attack & stroke.



STRAWBERRY: Protective Fruit. Strawberries have the highest total antioxidant power among major fruits & protect the body from cancer-causing, blood vessel-clogging free radicals.



ORANGE : Sweetest medicine. Taking 2-4 oranges a day may help keep colds away, lower cholesterol, prevent & dissolve kidney stones as well as lessens the risk of colon cancer.



WATERMELON: Coolest thirst quencher. Composed of 92% water, it is also packed with a giant dose of glutathione, which helps boost our immune system. They are also a key source of lycopene - the cancer fighting oxidant. Other nutrients found in watermelon are vitamin C & Potassium.



GUAVA & PAPAYA: Top awards for vitamin C. They are the clear winners for their high vitamin C content. Guava is also rich in fiber, which helps prevent constipation. Papaya is rich in carotene; this is good for your eyes.



Drinking Cold water after a meal = Cancer! Can you believe this? For those who like to drink cold water, this article is applicable to you. It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this 'sludge' reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food. It will line the intestine. Very soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup,warm water or warm beer after a meal.

A serious note about heart attacks HEART ATTACK PROCEDURE': (THIS IS NOT A JOKE!) Women should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting. Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line.. You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack . Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms.. Sixty percent of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let's be careful and be aware. The more we know the better chance we could survive...

A Poem

Why do we close our eyes when we sleep?
When we cry? When we imagine?
When we kiss? and When we pray?
This is because the most beautiful thing in the
world is unseen.

We are all a little weird and life's a little weird
and when we find someone whose weirdness is
compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall
in
mutual weirdness and call it love.

Happiness lies for those who cry, those who are
hurt,
those who have searched and those who have tried.
For only they can appreciate the importance of the
people who have touched their lives.

A great love? It's when you shed tears and still
you care for him, it's when
he ignores you and still you long for him.
It's when he begins to love another and
yet you still smile and say I'm happy for you.

If love fails, set yourself free, let your heart
spread its wings and fly again.
Remember you may find love and lose it,
but when love dies, you never have to die with
it.

The strongest people are not those who always win
but those who stand up back when they fall.
Somehow along the course of life, you learn about
yourself and realize there should never be
regrets,
only a lifelong appreciation of the choices you've
made.

A true friend understands when you say, I forgot,
waits forever when you say,
just a minute, stays when you say leave me alone,
opens the door even before you knock and says can I
come in?

It's more dangerous to weep inwardly rather than
outwardly. Outward tears can be wiped away while
secret tears scar forever.

There comes a time when we have to stop
Loving someone not because that person
has stopped loving us but because we have found
out that they'd be happier if we let go.

It's best to wait for the one you want than settle
for one that's available.
Best to wait for the one you love than one who is
around. Best to wait for the right one because
life is too short to waste on just someone.

Sometimes the one you love turns out to be the one
who hurts you the most, and sometimes the FRIEND ,
who takes you into his arms and cries when you cry
turns out to be the love you never knew you
wanted.

just want to brighten up your day.

Is He Really The One?

Whether or not your partner is right for you is one of the most
important decisions of your life. Your entire future depends on these
choices so how can you be sure you have the picked the right one?

Well, the first thing you need to do is honestly ask yourself why you
love or are in love with your partner? You would be surprised at the
answers you hear when you ask that same question to your friends.

The wrong answers to that question include the following:

Because they love me.
It's better than being alone.
I don't want to hurt them.
Because I am not ! sure I would find someone better.

These answers indicate a relationship built upon fear, insecurity and
pity.

There are good matches out there, but if there are too many ifs, ands
or buts, then sooner or later the relationship will fail. Now that
doesn't mean you will break up, you could stay together for the rest
of your lives and s! till fail as a couple.

So the question still remains, how do you choose the right partner?
Obviously you are going to choose a partner that you are physically
attracted to. Apart from that aspect, there are a few important areas
you should look at:

Communication Level-When you talk to them, are they on the same level
as you? How long does it take them to answer your question? Do you get
bored because they answer everything else under the sun rather than
the question you asked or do you enjoy the tangents they ta! ke you
on?
Do they speak very slowly compared to you? Do they understand you
when you speak? Can you really talk to them about absolutely anything?
This may not seem important now but could you imagine living with
someone for the next 50 - 70 years that can never answer a direct
question, frustrates you to no end by their speed of communication and
just doesn't get it when you are trying to explain something to them?

Common Interests-This is really a given. You have to have something in
common with them to be able to be with them. Otherwise you will have ;)
nothing to talk about and nothing to do together. Yes, physically you may
have great sex,but how far can that really take you? When two people have
different interests, one person usually ends up
sacrificing their desires for the other person... or you end up living
completely separate lives.

Ambitions-Do you both want the same things in life or are they going
to hold you back? Are they willing to let you have that career you
have always wanted. Even if it means working long hours plus going to
school at night?

Ethics Level-Do they have the same values as you? Would they feel
totally OK doing something that you would have strong objections to
or vice versa? Do you have the same beliefs on major issues such as
religion, prejudice, raising children etc? If not, is this something
that will become a problem in the future?

Grooming and Cleanliness-Are they a slob and are you the type of person
that likes to keep the house immaculate? Do you take the same level of
care of your appearance? There is a lot of false information about
relationships out there. One of the biggest lies is that opposites
attract. That is really just a myth. Now a lot of the things listed above
do come down to personal choice. It comes down to what you are and
are not willing to accept. Just because you have fallen in love with
someone does not mean that they are the righT one for you. The number of
people in physically or emotionally abusive relationships should be
testament enough to that.

One t h ing is for sure. Do not settle for something less than you want
because you are scared of hurting them, being alone or you feel this
might be the best you can get.

You never know what you might have missed that was right around the
corner.

Settling is always settling, no matter what way you look at it
By doing so, you will be left with a lifetime of what ifs.

love doesn't ask "why?" for it is a reason itself... love doesn't ask
"what if?" for it is willing to risk all...love doesn't ask "until
when?" for it knows only forever...

Diffrent ways to say I LOVE YOU

English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M'bi fe
Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T'estimo
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Elf (from The Lord of The Rings, by J.R.R. Tolkien)- "le melin" (thanks Markus)
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki'
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Frisian - Ik hâld fan dy
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S'agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha Au Ia `oe (Thanks Craig)
Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i' ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te iubesc
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing'I Love You')
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Surinam - Mi lobi joe
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu di
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe

You long to give yourself to someone.
To have a deep soul relationship with another...
To be loved thoroughly and exclusively
BUT GOD says

"No, not until you are satisfied, fulfilled and contented
with being loved by Me alone...
With giving yourself totally unreserved to Me
To having an intensely and unique relationship with
Me
Discovering that only in Me can your satisfaction be
found,
Then you will be capable of the perfect human
relationship that I have planned for you.
You will never be united with another until you are
united with Me...
exclusive of anyone or anything else,
exclusive of any desires or longings.
I want you to stop planning, stop wishing and allow
Me to give you the most thrilling plan existing...
One that you cannot imagine.
I want you to have the best.
Please allow Me to bring it to you. Just expect the
greatest things...
Keep listening and learning the things I tell you.
Just wait. That's all.
Don't be anxious. Don't worry.
Don't look at the things that others have gotten or
that I have given them.
Don't look at the things that you think you want.
Just keep looking off and away and up to Me,
or you'll miss what I want to show you with a love
For more wonderful than you've ever dreamed of.
You see, until you are ready and until the one I have for
you is ready
(I am working even this very minute to have both of
you ready at the same time).
Until you are both satisfied exclusively with Me,
And the life I have prepared for you.
You can't experience the love that exemplifies your
relationship
with Me and is thus, the perfect love.
And dear one, I want you to have the most wonderful
love in My time.
I want you too see in flesh, a picture of your
relationship with Me.
And to enjoy materially and concretely the everlasting
union of
Beauty, perfection and love that I offer you with
Myself.
Know that I love you utterly
Believe it and be satisfied.



- Jesus

Another Wednesday morning...

It's another Wednesday morning here at the office. Doing same routine over and over again. After finishing regular tasks, looking for some interesting things on the net. And hoping to find side jobs to earn additional income.

hmmmmm.... what will i write next?????

....I just don't have something to say in this blog. LOL



Ooopppss... I've got something to do...

I'll publish more interesting topic next. :-)

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IN YOUR EYES

IN YOUR EYES


I think I finally know you
I can see beyond your smile
I think that I can show you
That what we have is still worthwhile
Don't you know that love's
just like the thread
That keeps unravelling but then
It ties us back together in the end

CHORUS
In your eyes
I can see my dream's reflections
In your eyes
found the answers to my questions
In your eyes
I can see the reasons why our love's alive
In your eyes
we're drifting safely back to shore
and I think I've finally learned
to love you more

You told me that life changes
and that no one really knows
Whether time would make us strangers
Or whether time would make us grow
Even though the winds of time will change
In a world where nothing stays the same
Through it all our love will still remain
REPEAT CHORUS

In your eyes I can see the
reasons why our love's alive
In your eyes
we're drifting safely back to shore
and I think I've finally learned
to love you more

Somewhere, Somehow

by: Amy Grant & Michael W. Smith


Standing in our silence
I hear my heart beating
And if only I could choose
I'd stay here with you
But hold me till the train is leaving
Somewhere down the line
After you've gone from sight
Our love will be the same
And, whispering your name,
I'll cling to you with all my might

Let me dream of you
But it's true
And wake me up when this is over
Love will be there when this is over and

Somewhere far beyond today
I will find a way to find you
And somehow thru the lonely nights
I will leave a light in the dark
Let it lead you to my heart

There's a love inside us
Deep down inside
That goes without saying
Don't say a word
But I'll tell you just the same
And that love will fan the flame
And that flame will warm the heart that's waiting

You are mine and I'll wait for you my love
You are mine it may take some time
Even if it takes a lifetime
Tell me you'll wait

Somewhere far beyond today
I will find a way to find you
And somehow thru the lonely nights
I will leave a light in the dark
Let it lead you to my heart

And somewhere alone
I will be praying you home
I know that somewhere our love

Our love will lead me to your arms

And somewhere far beyond today
I will find a way to find you
And somehow thru the lonely nights
I will leave a light in the dark

Let it lead you to my heart....
Let it lead you to my heart....
Let it lead you to my heart....

When There Was Me and You

From: High School Musical

It's funny when you find yourself
Looking from the outside
I'm standing here but all I want
Is to be over there
Why did I let myself believe
Miracles could happen
Cause now I have to pretend
That I don't really care
I thought you were my fairytale
A dream when I'm not sleeping
A wish upon a star
Thats coming true
But everybody else could tell
That I confused my feelings with the truth
When there was me and you

I swore I knew the melody
That I heard you singing
And when you smiled
You made me feel
Like I could sing along
But then you went and changed the words
Now my heart is empty
I'm only left with used-to-be's
And once upon a song

Now I know your not a fairytale
And dreams were meant for sleeping
And wishes on a star
Just don't come true
Cause now even I can tell
That I confused my feelings with the truth
Cause I liked the view
When there was me and you

I can't believe that
I could be so blind
It's like you were floating
While I was falling
And I didn't mind

Cause I liked the view
Thought you felt it too
When there was me and you

"Until I Get Over You" by Christina Milian

Woke up today thinking of you
Another night that I made my way through
So many dreams still left in my mind
But they can never come true
I press rewind and remember when
I close my eyes and I'm with you again
But in the end I can still feel the pain, every time I hear your name
[Chorus]
The sun won't shine since you went away
Seems like the rain's falling every day
There's just one heart, where there once was two
But that's the way it's gotta be,
'til I get over you

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON? by Bo Sanchez

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said,
"How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was
A large man sitting next to her so I said, "It
depends. Is that your
husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this
question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.
Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with
your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked
their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a
completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO
anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... because it's
happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about
the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing
there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love
fades. It's the
natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls
become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when
it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute,
drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you
think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between
the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry
subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your spouse might start
asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse
reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to
desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages
breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look
outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is
the most obvious. But sometimes
people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It
lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You
could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same
situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

The Key To Succeeding In Marriage Is Not Finding The Right Person; It's
Learning To Love The Person You Found!

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER
just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it
day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of
love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly,
it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific
things
you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your
marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there
are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your
relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and
effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..
you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision".. . not just a feeling.

About love

What a girl needs most is love. What a guy needs most is respect. The most important thing for a girl is her heart. For a guy its his ego.

Give your man his own time and space. Let him have his time for his friends, sports, family, self and God. The relationship will grow old quickly if lagi kayong magkasama. Give him time to miss you and you'll see how he will love you more. If the guy naman is obsessed and just wants to be with you all the time, tell him you cant respect a "puppy" for long.

Do things differently anytime. Para kahit matagal na kayo, there is always something fresh and new. Variety is the spice of life. Exciting kung baga.

Discover something you both like to do and enjoy it TWOgether. Doon naman sa mga bagay na magkaiba ang hilig nyo, compliment each other by learning about it kahit konti. If you love someone, yung effort nyo to try will go a looooong way to understanding him later pag may disagreement kayo.

Pray with holding hands. Sounds corny noh? Maybe, but its very powerful. Pag may takot sa Diyos ang boyfriend,mo, kampante ka na di ka nya lolokohin, because he knows God sees everything he does in secret. Ikaw na ang magkusa that before you part after date, with hold hands and eyes closed, pray to God to bless you two. Believe me it's effective. Kailanman, di corny ang magdasal.

Believe in "Magic". Kahit di minsan practical o walang logical na dahilan, o matrabaho, o sounds crazy sa iba, do sweet little things for the one you love kahit magmukha ka ng timang. The memories will be fun to recall later in life. The corniest song o gift o letter ang laging asteeeg! True love brings out the best in each other. Find something good in your boyfriend and nurture it, encourage it and syempre, ENJOY it.

It's healthy to fight. Doon nyo lang maaayos ang mga differences nyo at natetest ang tatag ng relationship. Doon mo rin sya makikilala ng mabuti. Its called test of fire. Di mahalaga how dalas you fight. What matters is how often you make bati. Mas nakakatakot yung relasyong sobrang perfect at laging masaya. One big fight and that's it! And diba mas kilig yung malambing na... "uy, bati na tayo...".
But don't overdo it. Kakapagod naman din na lagi na lang manuyo o magsori. Choose the battles na papatulan mo. The little issues, palampasin na. Don't sweat the small stuff.

Daraan sa iba't-ibang stages ang love especially pag matagal na kayo. Grow with it. Don't expect him to be like nung una. 'Coz like a student, di na ituturo sa grade 6 yung lessons na pang-grade 2. Change WILL happen... you both will change and your love WILL change too. It's up to you na lang if the change will be for the better or for the worse. Life is about growth. Grow with it.

When break up comes and it's time to say goodbye, don't doubt the love just because it didn't last. May mga bagay sa buhay na di man nagtatagal, it doesn't mean di na ito totoo. Some good things are just never meant to last forever. Okay lang yon. Bless the parting and move on. Expect tears, sorrow, sleepless nights and pain. Ika nga "it's when you hurt the worse that you love the MOST." Kung di ka willing masaktan, wag ka na lang magmahal.

Life is a balance. And love is both holding on and letting go. Know when to fight for your man and when to let him go. God will guide you kung anong dapat gawin sa kung anong sitwasyon. So dapat mataas ang signal ng langit sa cellfone ng puso mo to know His wisdom.

Mga Dahilan Kung Bakit Single Ka Pa Rin

Mga Dahilan Kung Bakit Single Ka Pa Rin Ilang ulit na bang nangyari sa iyo ito? Ngayon ang kasal ng pinsan mo. Heto ka ang gwapo-gwapo mo. Naghanda ka talaga dahil minsan-minsan lang ang okasyon sa pamilya nyo. Kadalasan sa mga lamay na lang kayo nagkikita-kita so ngayong kasal ng pinsan mo, gusto mo namang maging gwapo at mapansin nila. Aba, napansin ka nga. Ganito ang tanong ng lahat ng kaanak mo sa iyo..."O ikaw kelan ka ikakasal?" "Uy, ikaw na ang susunod ano?" Parang gusto mo na sa susunod na lamay sila naman ang sabihan mo ng "Ikaw, kelan ka susunod?" Huwag kang malungkot. Ito gusto nga kitang sumaya kaya sinulat ko ito. Hindi ka dapat malungkot dahil maraming posibleng dahilan bakit hindi ka pa kinakasal hanggang ngayon. Hayaan mo silang mainip sa paghihintay. Basta kung okay ka, okay ka. Hayaan mo tulungan kita mag-isip kung bakit wala ka pa ring asawa hanggang ngayon. Naisip ko na 'yan eh. Ito ang sampung dahilan bakit wala pa.

1. Kailangan mong mag-concentrate sa career.
Habang hindi ka pa tinatamaan ng palaso ni kupido, hamo na munang magconcentrate ka sa trabaho mo. Kailangan mong ma-achieve ang full potential mo bago ka mag-asawa, kasi 'pag nag-asawa ka na, tanggapin na natin, iba na ang mga prioridad mo sa buhay. Lagi ng mauuna ang pamilya. Habang feel mo pang lumaban ng lumaban sa rat race at umakyat ng umakyat sa corporate ladder, huwag mong panghinayangan na wala ka pang sariling pamilya.

2. Masyadong mataas ang standards mo.
Ibaba mo kasi ng konti, baka naman kahit sino hindi ma-achieve yung standards mo. Kahit naman ikaw di ba? Meron ka ding kapintasan?
Baba mo ng konti, yung makatarungang pamantayan lang. Baka naman naghahanap ka ng Jennifer Aniston eh di ka naman si Brad Pitt. Lumagay ka lang sa dapat mong kalagyan. Baka naman naghahanap ka ng kasing yaman ni Zobel eh ikaw naman eh pobre din lang naman. Huwag. Huwag ganoon. Para kang g**o non. Baka naman naghahanap ka ng smart, na maganda at mayaman. Kuya, kung ganon ang hanap mo, malamang tatandang binata ka na talaga. Di lahat binibigay ni Lord. Di bale kung salat sa face value, babawi na lang siguro yung sa bait at sa talino.Kung puro face value naman, at salat sa kaalaman or masama ang ugali, manalig ka na lang na baka pag pinakain mo ng gulay tumalino or ito the best, lahat naman ng tao nagbabago. Pwede pa 'yan bumait.

3. Hindi ka lumalabas ng bahay.
O baka lumalabas ka nga ng bahay, sa opisina lang naman ang punta mo. Huwag ganon. Sumama ka sa mga kaibigan mo, mag-mall ka, magsimba ka, mag-outreach program ka. Huwag mong pansinin ang sarili mo sa bahay dahil wala talagang makakapansin sa iyo sa bahay. Mag-aral ka ng painting, voice lessons at Yoga. Imaginin mo kung magka-girlfriend ka na Yoga master? or di kaya, chef. O di ba cool 'yun? Magliwaliw ka sa bookstores, sa coffee shops, at kung saan-saan pang mataong lugar. Baka sakali mapansin ka doon.

4. Baka naman sobrang tapang mo.
Oo nga naman, baka naman sobrang masungit ka at natatakot sa iyo ang mga potential partner mo. Baka dapat kang maging approachable ng konti. Baka masyadong maangas ang dating mo imbis na matuwa sa iyo matakot. Baka sobrang independent mo, at parang mabubuhay ka ng wala silang lahat. Minsan may epekto rin 'yan. Baka sobrang talino ng dating mo pakiramdam nila mababara lang sila.. Magkunwari ka kayang t**** minsan-minsan, tingin mo?

5. Baka naman kasi di ka maayos manamit.
Oo nga naman, mag-ayos ka paminsan-minsan kaya lang kung pangit ka, pangit ka talaga. No amount of make up can change that. Pero at least pwede ma-enhanceng konti.

6. Baka naman hinahanapan pa ni Lord ng ribbon ang para sa iyo.
Natatandaan ko ang sabi ng kaibigan ko. Blessing daw from the Lord ang mga girlfriends/ boyfriends. O eh baka naman hinahanapan pa ni Lord ng magandang ribbon yung regalo mo. Kasi baka daw 'pag hinarap ang packaging i-reject mo.

7. Baka naman nagtitipid sa toll fee yung para sa iyo.
Malay mo kasi taga-Norte yung para sa iyo eh mahal naman ang toll fee. Baka nagtitipid dumaan sa walang toll kaya medyo natatagalan.

8. Baka naglakad yung para sa iyo.
Parating na 'yon kaya lang mahal ang gasolina so naglakad na lang papunta sa iyo. Besides, walking is good for the heart daw. Baka sa kakalakad naligaw na.

9. Baka sadyang torpe ka lang talaga.
Baka naman sobrang tagal mong mag-ipon ng lakas ng loob o di kaya mag-iisip ng magandang tiyempo. Baka talagang ka lang makapag-salita dahil sobrang mahiyain ka.

10. Baka naman talagang for single blessedness ka.
Ipagdasal mo. Baka naman kasi pinapagod mo ang sarili mong kakaisip bakit you're still single eh hindi naman kasi marriage ang plan ni Lord for you. Paminsan-minsan magtanong ka kasi sa Kanya baka naman ikaw ang naliligaw. Baka naman ikaw ang nagtitipid. Baka naman kasi ikaw ang problema. Gasgas man, pero sasabihin ko pa rin. Darating Din Yun. Kung para sa iyo, para sa iyo. Kahit iwasan mo, para talaga sa iyo.

Life Relationship Lessons for Women

1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.

2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man’s character, leave him alone.

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be.

6. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

7. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

8. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don’t let faith make you stupid. God does things decent and in order.

9. Don’t settle.

10. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

11. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

12. There’s only one ‘reason’ a man dumps you; he doesn’t want you.

13. Always put yourself and your happiness first.

14. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.

15. Like from the show fancy and the City, if he doesn’t call, he just isn’t that interested.

16. Know when to cut the cord, don’t be strung along.

17. Don’t fall for the “I’m confused role”. Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure things out (but don’t wait for him, move on).

18. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom).

19. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

20. Actions speak louder than words.

21. Never let a man define who you are.

22. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.

23. Just because he says he loves you, doesn’t mean that he won’t hurt you and it doesn’t mean that you are meant to be with him.

24. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the #1 person in your life.

25. Love is a verb.

26. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable-available,someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-loving.

27. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

28. If you don’t love yourself…you can’t love anyone else.

29. You cannot mend someone else’s broken heart.

30. You need time to heal between relationships…there is nothing cute about baggage…deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

31. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you…a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals…look for someone complimentary…not supplementary..

32. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it.

33. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the actions.

34. Don’t fall for the “I’m not the loving type”…when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn’t do for you.

35. Make him miss you sometimes…when a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him he takes it for granted..

36. When it’s time to let go; let go.

37. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

38. Never believe a man that tells you he want to be with you, while he’s with someone else, if he wanted to be with you, he would make it happen sooner than later.

39. Don’t be a man’s doormat , make him open the door for you, because a real man would do this on his own.

40. There is someone out there worthy to be in your life, let out the trash so he can come in.Two thumbs up!